Everyone since childhood has been taught how to provide first aid for wounds and what to do when you feel ill. But no one has ever told us how to protect ourselves from psychological trauma. And yet we get them in adulthood more often than cuts or colds! These few simple tips will help you maintain your emotional health and emotional balance.
Trouble? Pass, Please!
Pass by, of course. We’re all going somewhere in life. Sometimes we speed up, sometimes we stop, and sometimes we even take a few steps back. And on that long journey, we are bound to encounter bad people and unpleasant events. It is just as inevitable as ordinary passers-by on the street. We do not ask them to be all nice and dignified. This is also how we should meet trouble – without emotion or unnecessary emotional trepidation.
The Journey Is More Important Than the Destination
Living in the future is just as futile as living in the past. If we think only about the end point of the journey, we can miss so many wonderful things along the way! Then we wait for a vacation, or Christmas, or a major acquisition. Or when we are waiting for a live casino India jackpot instead of just placing bets and enjoying the moment. And today is perceived as an intermediate stage, an annoying obstacle on the way to another happy milestone. Count on your fingers how many times in the past year did you feel happy? It must be at least 365. Even if the alarm clock is ringing at dawn, it’s Monday and it’s raining, you wouldn’t want not to wake up at all, would you?
Realistic optimism is the ability to see reality as it is, but to give it a positive outlook. There is no need to lose sight of the negative aspects of reality, but it is forbidden to dwell on them and exaggerate their frightening prospects for the future. It is much more useful to focus your attention and activities on those tasks that can be solved. In other words, to be realistic and confident in your own abilities.
If You Have Something, Take it! When You Have Something, Give It!
The ability to accept and give support to others is a talent and a stroke of luck. The ability to help should not be confused with the inability to say “no”. Help should be given voluntarily, with joy and in a state of equilibrium. Moreover, sometimes that is what allows it to be restored. Sometimes the awareness that you have what you can give to another person displaces your own suffering about what you don’t have.
In a Healthy Body, There Is a Calm Spirit
If you look closely at emotionally stable people, you’ll notice that their bodies and minds are in good physical shape (almost always). It turns out that there are striking similarities between the stress of exercise and the stress of the kicks our lives are so generous with. The symptoms of aerobic exercise are similar to those one experiences when frightened, anxious or nervous: sweat breaks out, the heart beats faster and breathing becomes labored. By loading your body in the gym, we help it withstand psychological blows with dignity.
Emotional Swings Are Dangerous
An overabundance of positive feelings, excitement is just as unhealthy for emotional health as depressed moods. The situation can be compared to an outdoor thermometer. There are limits to temperature comfort, and anything else is not good. If you deviate too much in one direction, then you’re bound to be thrown back in the other.
Find Meaning and Gratitude
There are many people who have found the strength to stay on track in life after a major loss or personal trauma. And what’s more, continue to thrive and have an enviable emotional resilience. If you ask them how they do it, most would say that they have managed to find meaning in both their own lives and in the negative experiences they have had. And even found the strength to thank fate for the lesson learned. Whatever happens, you must either move on, or accept the fact that you roll backwards, as life has no “pause” button.